This seems to be the case for Valentine's Day as well; even though the pressure isn't coming at you from all sides as it is with the Christmas season, it is strictly centered around your relationship. High expectations of how Valentine's Day must go, and how your significant other should express their devotion could lead to points of contention. Like I said, holidays are a time that really put your relationship to the test.
A report by the Economist found that holidays are the time when couples expect their significant other to display their love and devotion in tangible ways. They want to see them go above and beyond , whether it be with a gift, or a fancy dinner, to show them how much they truly care.
This is especially the case for individuals who feel their partner has been lacking in that department lately. Chances are, when one partner feels the other needs to prove themselves on a holiday like Valentine's Day or Christmas, it's because the relationship is already waning.
The holiday then becomes the last nail in the coffin. Gifts for your significant other are often expected to have significant meaning, and a pretty hefty price tag. If you're becoming less invested in a relationship, chances are you don't want to have to deal with this aspect.
And while it may seem little, not wanting to get a gift for your partner may bring up all of the other negative emotions you're already feeling toward them. The same thing holds true for Valentine's Day. These are symbolic times where you're making a statement, and if you're not sure, particularly if you haven't been dating for several years, a lot of people have issues about gift giving and how intimate the gift giving is and they get frightened because they don't want to put pressure on the other person, but on the other hand they don't want to feel like a fool giving something and not getting anything back.
As Lynn says, giving gifts open us up to a lot more vulnerabilities than we previously thought , and may not be ready for. To conclude their findings researchers analysed Facebook data, looking at thousands of messages for signs of relationship turbulence and breakups.
From that collected, they were able to determine most breakups occurred two weeks before Christmas, on December Those who made it to the big day, however, were in the clear — the least number of breakups in the entire year happened on Christmas day. As to why December 11 seems to be a peak day for breakups? Well, there are a few competing theories.
Some newer couples may feel daunted by the prospect of having to introduce a new partner to their parents, and would rather break up than go ahead with a meet-and-greet. Sassoon says you should feel excited about spending time and enjoying the holidays with your partner, and if you don't feel that, a breakup may not be the worst thing. Relationships are hard, but should ultimately be fun.
Otherwise, what's the point? If you're feeling meh, but not "we gotta end this"-level meh, set some forward-facing goals. Sassoon says the upcoming New Year inspires a lot of people to think about making positive changes to their love life.
One way to do that is make a joint list of relationship-centered resolutions. Maybe you want to try one new thing each month? Or cook something at least once a week? Small and big things count. It's your list, your rules. Follow Hannah on Twitter. United States. Type keyword s to search. Today's Top Stories.
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